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You Never Know: A Memoir by Tom Selleck #AudiobookReview #Rich & Famous Biographies

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Book Blurb:

There are many miles from the business school and basketball court at the University of Southern California to 50 million viewers for the final episode of a TV show called Magnum P.I. Tom Selleck has lived every one of those miles in his own iconoclastic and joyful way.

Frank, funny and open-hearted, You Never Know is an intimate memoir from one of the most beloved actors of our time, the highly personal story of a remarkable life and thoroughly accidental career. In his own voice and uniquely unpretentious style, the famed actor brings listeners on his uncharted but serendipitous journey to the top in Hollywood, his temptations and distractions, his misfires and mistakes and, over time, his well-earned success. Along the way, he clears up an armload of misconceptions and shares dozens of never-told stories from all corners of his personal and professional life. His rambunctious California childhood. His clueless arrival as a good-looking college jock in Hollywood (from the Dating Game to the Fox New Talent Program to co-starring with Mae West and escorting her to black-tie social functions). What it was like to emerge as a mega-star in his mid-thirties and remain so for decades to come, an actor whose authenticity and ease in front of the camera connected with audiences worldwide while embodying and also redefining the clichés of onscreen manhood.

In You Never Know, Selleck recounts his personal friendships with a vivid army of A-listers, everyone from Frank Sinatra to Carol Burnett to Sam Elliott, paying special tribute to his mentor James Garner of The Rockford Files, who believed, like Selleck, that TV protagonists are far more interesting when they have rough edges.He also more than tips his hat to the American western and the scruffy band of actors, directors and other ruffians who helped define that classic genre, where Selleck has repeatedly found a happy home. Magnum fans will be fascinated to learn how Selleck put his career on the line to make Thomas Magnum a more imperfect hero and explains why he walked away from a show that could easily have gone on for years longer.

Hollywood is never easy, even for stars who make it look that way. In You Never Know, Selleck explains how he’s struggled to balance his personal and professional lives, frequently adjusting his career to protect his family’s privacy and normalcy. His journey offers a truly fresh perspective on a changing industry and a changing world. Beneath all the charm and talent and self-deprecating humor, Selleck’s memoir reveals an American icon who has reached remarkable heights by always insisting on being himself.

My Review:

You might get the impression by the length of the blurb that this gets a little on the verbose side? Well, possibly.

I waited for my turn on the library audiobook and it was worth the wait. I was interested to see what he thought important and given that his years with Magnum PI ran into minute detail on specific episodes, the rewriting of each, and the next season’s problems, I’d guess that was where his heart is.

The man was a head-turner, no question, but have to say when Magnum ran (December 11, 1980 to May 1, 1988), I was busy with a three and five-year-old and if I had time to watch TV was probably too exhausted to remember tuning into much of the Magnum seasons.

Oh, wait! “But I have to say” and “I gotta tell you” were repeated so many times I wondered why the editor didn’t cut a few. But anyway, I gotta tell you, he read his book to me. Or it seemed like it. Well, he didn’t just read it. The book was spoken in an easy, comfortable and conversational tone. I just needed the overstuffed easy chair with a glass of Moscato.

I didn’t get to ask questions though, and if I had, I might have asked about the blanks in his story—more on his early childhood—his marriages. More…personal stuff. And, maybe more about Blue Bloods. Eegods—that was longer running than Magnum (fourteen seasons) as opposed to seven on Magnum. Actually, I was really surprised by all his credits—a much longer list than I had any clue. (After all, the man’s been involved in the industry fifty years.)

It appears he was incredibly lucky, this was certainly not a path he was originally set on. Serendipity worked for him more than once, with the possible exception of his loss of the role that Harrison Ford got in the Raiders flicks.

He was divorced from first wife Jackie when he met Jillie Mack who was playing in Cats in London. It has to be Jillie that kept him coming back to see that one (eight times!?). I snoozed through a large part of it.

I did enjoy many of the thoughtful memories, the stories of the locations, the one in Yugoslavia in particular. They did have too much fun! I wondered sometimes if his generous and considerate memories of the many men and women he was associated with were paving a story for the picture of a loving and sweet hero or was that really who he is? There was an obvious change from his humble beginnings as he got more popular during Magnum to his exertion of more power. And how could you not? He’d had a lot to learn and obviously learned it very well.

He dropped a lot of names, including Princess Di, but I particularly loved his friendship with James Garner, always one of my favorites. Memories were kept on the charitable side followed by the story of his 63 acre ranch located in Ventura County, California when he retired from Blue Bloods. That’s a beautiful area, my brother born there back when there were more acres of orange groves than houses. Before the drought hit California, his ranch was a thriving avocado farm.

If you enjoy celebrity memoirs, you’ll enjoy this one, particularly because it’s narrated by the author. If you are looking for trash on all his associates, you might not. I’d recommend it, however.

I downloaded a copy of this audiobook from my local well-stocked library. These are my honest thoughts.

Rosepoint Publishing: Four point Five Stars

Book Details:

Genre: Rich & Famous Biographies, Biographies & Celebrities & Entertainment Professionals, Actor & Entertainer Biographies
Publisher: HarperAudio
ASIN: B07QPQF4DB
Listening Length: 15 hrs 27 mins
Narrator: Tom Selleck
Publication Date: November 19, 2024
Source: Local Library (Audiobook Selections)
Title Link: You Never Know – Amazon-US
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The Author: Tom Selleck, born in Detroit, Michigan on January 29, 1945. Tom Selleck is an American actor, film producer, and California Army National Guard veteran. He is most known for starring as private investigator Thomas Magnum in the television series Magnum, P.I. (1980–1988), as Peter Mitchell in the comedy film Three Men and a Baby, and as NYPD Commissioner Frank Reagan in Blue Bloods on CBS since 2010. (Goodreads bio)

Thomas William Selleck is an American actor. His breakout role was playing private investigator Thomas Magnum in the television series Magnum, P.I., for which he received five Emmy Award nominations for Outstanding Lead Actor in a Drama Series, winning in 1985. (Wikipedia–short bio and portraits)

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Netflix Movie Hillbilly Elegy vs #audiobook by J D Vance #EthnicStudies

Introduction

With my recent discovery of both the audiobook at my local library and the movie on Netflix (not sure for how much longer), I thought it a good time to post another Movie vs Book article. Nothing here advocating any candidate. That is not my intention. It’s a look at the book and the Ron Howard film the book generated.

The Movie

A Ron Howard film directed and produced (with partners), Howard put together a powerful cast of actors. Once again, a sharp divide between critics opinions and audience reviews. Some said it veered too far off the novel—I felt it followed fairly close. There are always little deviations, but the film did not lose the book’s essence. For his efforts, he won the Golden Raspberry Award. (really?!)

Glenn Close plays the grandmother, Mamaw, who turned in a remarkable performance using facial expressions and her eyes to cement the tension of the scene. She affected the walk of a long-suffering grandmother doing the best she could. One of the five most nominated actresses for an Oscar; lost Best Supporting Actress that year, also nominated for several other awards including the Golden Globe.

(“I’ll cancel your birth certificate!”)

Amy Adams, given the difficult role of JDs mother, also continues to stretch her acting chops, turning in a compelling performance as Bev Vance. Hers was considered the leading role. Again, though often thought a strong contender, has been denied either the nomination or the win come Oscar time. There is some controversy whether or not this should have been her turn—apparently not.

Gabriel Basso, who plays the adult J D Vance, would have been a Navy Seal had he not experienced a torn labrum. Beginning as a child actor, he has secured three nominations and two wins. Easily recognizable now for his latest action thriller series, also on Netflix, The Night Agent, he’s been active in both film and television.

I’m a little puzzled over the controversy this film generated. Was it just too honest? Reviews and opinions are all over the place. Everyone comes from a different experience and applying the message from the film might generate a range of conflicting judgments. And that’s okay. We’re all entitled.

The Book

First time I’ve noticed the Amazon ratings 106,821 with 4.4 stars and a 3.9 on Goodreads with 426,652 ratings in the heading.

#1 Best Seller in Sociology

A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis

My Thoughts

Of course, when he was nominated the VP candidate, I had to look for information on him and found this memoir. I’m a fan of books about the Appalachian area and memoirs anyway. When I discovered it among the audiobooks at my local library, I jumped on it.

To say I was a bit surprised would be an understatement. It’s a raw, no holds barred and very graphic account of his childhood to adulthood. (While my dad’s side hailed from Missouri, I couldn’t help but find so many similarities in the description of family life, it was scary. Apparently, a common trait among the folk from those eastern hills.)

Largely raised by his grandmother, it was her philosophy of life that instilled a fierce devotion and loyalty to family. Whether now well Yale educated or not, ex-Marine or not, a life in two worlds, it would appear that it is his Appalachian bearing that still wields the powerful hammer.

Many of his conservative ideas are controversial but he comes from a different universe than most of his congressional billionaire-building cohorts. If he appears to exhibit some pride by making it from extreme poverty, drug use, and alcohol to his station today, perhaps he has a right. (I never forgot where I came from and thinking that this was as good as it was going to get was a plateau I never overcame. Still, I’ve been a lucky one.)

And so was he. Although his message may be one of taking responsibility for oneself—and stop the blame game—he managed to receive some lucky breaks. Supportive family, a Yale education, the right mentors. He tends to some deep introspection and certainly makes a lot of astute observations, offering some stats and info to back his theories and analyses of how or why the country got so divided.

Thought-provoking, heart-pounding narrative that describes the lows, the loss of hope, and then the swing to achievement and triumph.

Curious? It’s definitely worth a listen.

Audiobook (Blurb)

Winner, 2017 APA Audie Awards – Nonfiction

From a former marine and Yale Law School graduate, a powerful account of growing up in a poor Rust Belt town that offers a broader, probing look at the struggles of America’s white working class.

Hillbilly Elegy is a passionate and personal analysis of a culture in crisis – that of white working-class Americans. The decline of this group, a demographic of our country that has been slowly disintegrating over 40 years, has been reported on with growing frequency and alarm but has never before been written about as searingly from the inside. J. D. Vance tells the true story of what a social, regional, and class decline feels like when you were born with it hung around your neck.

The Vance family story begins hopefully in postwar America. J. D.’s grandparents were “dirt poor and in love” and moved north from Kentucky’s Appalachia region to Ohio in the hopes of escaping the dreadful poverty around them. They raised a middle-class family, and eventually their grandchild (the author) would graduate from Yale Law School, a conventional marker of their success in achieving generational upward mobility.

But as the family saga of Hillbilly Elegy plays out, we learn that this is only the short, superficial version. Vance’s grandparents, his aunt, his uncle, his sister, and most of all his mother struggled profoundly with the demands of their new middle-class life and were never able to fully escape the legacy of abuse, alcoholism, poverty, and trauma so characteristic of their part of America. Vance piercingly shows how he himself still carries around the demons of their chaotic family history.

A deeply moving memoir with its share of humor and vividly colorful figures, Hillbilly Elegy is the story of how upward mobility really feels. And it is an urgent and troubling meditation on the loss of the American dream for a large segment of this country.

The Author

J. D. Vance grew up in the Rust Belt city of Middletown, Ohio, and the Appalachian town of Jackson, Kentucky. He enlisted in the Marine Corps after high school and served in Iraq. A graduate of Ohio State University and Yale Law School, he was elected to the United States Senate representing Ohio in 2022. In 2024, he became the Republican nominee for Vice President. Vance lives in Columbus, Ohio, with his family.

Book Details

Genre: Ethnic Studies, Poverty, Sociology
Publisher: HarperAudio
ASIN: B01EM4ZJBO
Listening Length: 6 hrs 49 mins
Narrator: J. D. Vance
Audible Release: June 28, 2016
Source: Local Library (Audiobook Selections)
Title Link: Hillbilly Elegy [Amazon]

Goodreads Choice Award

Nominee for Best Memoir & Autobiography (2016)

Overall Impression

I greatly enjoyed the audiobook, narrated by the author, his scrapping childhood enough to break or harden any but the most hardy individual. I listened with interest to his assessment of the divide that exists in the country, critical of many government practices. His is an honest voice I’m sure heard with a jaundiced ear—I doubt he has a problem suppressing his thoughts.

Conclusion

Both the film and the audiobook (and I’d recommend the audiobook) are worth the time for the read and/or watch.

The actors turn in a credible performance—I was especially impressed with Glenn Close—not usually one of my favorites. Amy Adams sold her role of a mother whose lifestyle cemented the inability to care for her children. The critics hated the flick. Audience reviews were more generous. (And by the way, those iconic glasses worn by Glenn Close were Mamaws own glasses, loaned to the actress for her part.)

Did the movie go overboard with the castigation of the Appalachian people in general? Possibly. It’s a searing indictment of the predicament of the poor of the region. In the blame game—who is responsible? A government turning a blind eye? The people themselves? Is Vance pushing the edict, “If I got out, so can you?” Yeah, maybe, or it may be more, “I got out and look at me now!” Hoorah!

In any case, if you can separate the politics and just enjoy the story, either the book or the movie is gripping and powerful entertainment and I’d recommend both.

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Credits: Sources from Google search
Amy Adams
Glenn Close
Gabriel Basso
General info, imdb.com

In Pieces by Sally Field – a #BookReview

Title: In Pieces by Sally Field

Genre: Mid Atlantic S. Biographies, Television Performer Biographies

Publisher: Grand Central Publishing

ISBN-10:1538763028
ISBN-13:978-1538763025
ASIN: B079L57W1M

Print Length: 416 pages

Publication Date: September 18, 2018

Source: New Books from the Library

Title Link: In Pieces

#1 Best Seller

Book Blurb:

In this intimate, haunting literary memoir and New York Times Notable Book of the year, an American icon tells her own story for the first time — about a challenging and lonely childhood, the craft that helped her find her voice, and a powerful emotional legacy that shaped her journey as a daughter and a mother.

One of the most celebrated, beloved, and enduring actors of our time, Sally Field has an infectious charm that has captivated the nation for more than five decades, beginning with her first TV role at the age of seventeen. From Gidget’s sweet-faced “girl next door” to the dazzling complexity of Sybil to the Academy Award-worthy ferocity and depth of Norma Rae and Mary Todd Lincoln, Field has stunned audiences time and time again with her artistic range and emotional acuity. Yet there is one character who always remained hidden: the shy and anxious little girl within.

With raw honesty and the fresh, pitch-perfect prose of a natural-born writer, and with all the humility and authenticity her fans have come to expect, Field brings readers behind-the-scenes for not only the highs and lows of her star-studded early career in Hollywood, but deep into the truth of her lifelong relationships–including her complicated love for her own mother. Powerful and unforgettable, In Pieces is an inspiring and important account of life as a woman in the second half of the twentieth century.

My Review:

It’s called a memoir. Perhaps more honestly, an exposé. But certainly not what you’d expect. If you are looking for the inside scoop about Tom Hanks or Robin Williams, you won’t get it here. This is pure Sally at age 72 (born in 1946), raw, open, vulnerable, naive, and damaged. She is a product of sexual abuse, a beautiful mother fighting deniability, torn, and numbing her own culpability with alcohol. In spite of the family back story, her step-father introduces her into the world of acting. On stage, she can be outside herself. The problem is off stage.

You may be too young to remember Gidget, it only lasted a year, or The Flying Nun, which she did NOT want to do and ended up saddled with the silly persona that took years to overcome. Beginning in 1977, however, she accumulated a long list of awards. But you should remember that she was a two time Academy Award winner. Norma Rae in 1980 and Places in the Heart in 1985 wherein receipt of her Oscar often resulted in misquotes of her famous “you love me” acceptance speech. Additional works ranging from serious to comedy included Sybil, Steel Magnolias, Mrs. Doubtfire, and Forrest Gump.

Still, this memoir has little to expand on the movies and all to do with how she got there and the ongoing conflict with family, particularly her mother and step-father. Sally expands on her commitment to be a serious actress, working with the Actors Studio and many very talented people. She painfully speaks of an abortion and reveals the circumstances of her marriages as well as the birth of her three boys.

Profoundly personal, open, and many times humiliating, she discusses her life, warts and all. She is alternately sad, even bitter, but relates all in beautifully written prose, describing scenes that put you in the middle. Necessary to scrutinize the details of her life in the effort to find reconciliation with all that she struggled, the seven years it took to write her memoir has possibly given her peace.

“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.”

The narrative examines her sexuality, or the insecurity thereof, and the timbre of the times regarding sexual harassment. Fortunately, much of that behavior has changed. Field doggedly pursues her acting goal and manages to succeed. I was not totally surprised by the Hollywood couch mentality–that seems to have been a recurring story. Still, talk about dedication!

Hubby brought home this large print (thank you!) hardcover “new” library book and I couldn’t wait for him to finish. This is a novel written for herself as much as for us, articulate, profound, and I think you’ll find it hard to put down. I sincerely appreciated her candid and genuine story. Wholeheartedly recommended.

Rosepoint Publishing: Four point Five of Five Stars

The Author: Sally Field is a two-time Academy Award and three-time Emmy Award-winning actor who has portrayed dozens of iconic roles on both the large and small screens. In 2012, she was inducted into the American Academy of Arts and Sciences, and in 2015 she was honored by President Obama with the National Medal of Arts. She has served on the Board of Directors of Vital Voices since 2002 and also served on the Board of The Sundance Institute from 1994 to 2010. She has three sons and five grandchildren.

The Other Vietnam War by Marc Cullison #BlogTour #BookReview

I am so delighted today to provide a review for you by the C.E. at my blog stop for The Other Vietnam War: A Helicopter Pilot’s Life in Vietnam by Marc Cullison on Sage’s Blog Tours.

Print Length: 290 pages
Publisher: Imzadi Publishing, LLC
Publication Date: May 10, 2015
Sold by: Amazon Digital Services LLC
ISBN-10: 0990846539
ISBN-13: 978-0990846536
ASIN: B00XI1T7F2
Amazon Best Sellers Rank – #242 in Kindle eBooks, Biographies & Memoirs, Historical, Military & Wars, Vietnam War

Each of us who served in Vietnam was the guy next door, the average Joe, not a hero. The boy who might date your daughter or sister. The young man who might mow your yard. In Vietnam, we weren’t out to be heroes. We just did our jobs.

For a helicopter pilot, each day was like all the others. You flew the mission and never stopped to think that it might be your last. You didn’t think about the bullet holes in the helicopter, the cracks in the tail boom, or about any of it until night, lying in bed when you couldn’t think of anything else.

The Other Vietnam War is the story of the introduction to a new country, a backward culture, the perils of a combat zone, and the effects on a young lieutenant fresh out of flight school. It does not labor the reader with pages of white-knuckle adventures, as so many other fine books about the Vietnam War do. It instead focuses on the internal battle each soldier fought with himself to make sense of where he was, why he was there, and if he was good enough.

The administrative duties of Commissioned officers, while tame compared to the exploits of valiant pilots who wrote about them, caused a deep introspection into life and its value in an enigmatic place like Vietnam. Aside from the fear, excitement, deliverance, and denial that each pilot faced, the inner battle he fought with himself took its toll. Some of us thought we’d find glory. But many of us discovered there is no glory in war.

The talk in the lunch room was of a place called Bietnam or some such. Never heard of it. However, the US Congress in its infinite wisdom was getting us involved and nobody knew why.

The draft was reinstated and the young son’s of WW II veterans were on the chopping block. Some ran and some stayed. The author spells out the calamity facing a generation that did not endorse or embrace a “conflict” halfway around the world. Marc Cullison faced many of the same conflicted reactions that most of us felt. Why do I want to join the military and fight in a place that has no direct impact on my country? Mr. Cullison explains, “the Vietnam war was a tragedy, a shallow and profane act of war as any war is.” We were not threatened nor did we have anything to fear from Southeast Asia! Why did we have to get involved and escalate into that part of the world?

Four years of being a helicopter pilot in Vietnam was what his pledge to honor and serve elicited, and Marc examines his thoughts and feelings as he served his tour. This memoir does not describe so much of the actual air battles as it does the result of war on the men who served. As I read his account I was reminded of some of my own service-related experiences during the same time. Away from home for the better part of four years, I served in countries that I had never aspired to visit. But orders were cut, oaths were taken, and we were sent into the melee.

Like Marc, I served because I had promised to uphold and defend our Constitution and way of life. After boot camp, it was painfully obvious that the orders from “my superiors” were not necessarily superior. My specialty did not send me “in country” to face the trials that Marc witnessed, but the periphery.

Marc says, “when you sign up for military service, you are supposed to be ready to defend your country and even die for it.” It’s a time of terror in equal portions of boredom and excessive moments of retrospection and the author shares his insights in equal measure. (One of my orders was to return to a base in the mountains of Taiwan in a stage two typhoon alert as the mountain roared with the sound of a hundred freight trains and downed electrical lines crossed the roadway.) The futility of the experience upon our return to the states with people spitting on us and calling us baby killers really pissed me off. There were people in wheelchairs with missing body parts and blind and deaf who had had no choice in their deployment and our citizens waited at the airports to shame us.) I can understand where Marc is coming from. However, living in the orient taught me one thing. Most people simply want to live their lives and go about raising their families.

The book is often graphically profane, but I agree with the author that it frankly reflects an honest look at the legions of men sent to defend their spot in the jungle. It may also serve as a valuable education, particularly for those who are considering joining the military. The services are a valid way to serve our country; contribution seals loyalty and provides a window into the wheels of management. (Avoiding the draft was not then an option, but neither is it the responsibility of the young citizens of our nation to help bolster the coffers of the corporations that profit and proliferate the development of weapons of war.)

I highly recommend this book as a means of understanding the conflict that persons of that generation faced during that extremely divisive time. Certainly, I would serve again, and after 9/11 tried to re-enlist because our country had been attacked. Read this book and experience the futility that most wars can be.

Rosepoint Publishing: Five of Five Stars

Marc Cullison is a baby-boomer who grew up in an era when education was everything and duty to country was a responsibility. After receiving a bachelor’s degree in architectural engineering at Oklahoma State University, he was commissioned as a second lieutenant in the United States Army Reserve Corps of Engineers through the ROTC program. During his four-year tour of duty, he served as helicopter pilot with the 129th Assault Helicopter Company in II Corps, Vietnam, in 1971. He returned from overseas to an assignment as a military assistant to the resident engineer at Kaw Dam and Reservoir near Ponca City, Oklahoma, where he met the woman he would marry there. After two years in Ponca City, he was honorably discharged and returned to Oklahoma State where he received a master’s degree in architectural engineering and honed his technical skills as a professional structural engineer. Then into quality control at a manufacturing plant which led him into computer programming. His most recent career was a math and science instructor at Connors State College in Warner and Muskogee, Oklahoma, from which he retired in 2014. He lives with his wife in a self-built log house near Sallisaw. Sage's Blog Tours